Conversations about the things men rarely say out loud.
The Modern Man Project Podcast explores masculinity, relationships, identity, fathers, vulnerability, purpose and the emotional lives of men.
This page also brings together conversations I've had as a guest on other podcasts because some of the most interesting questions come when someone else is asking them.
Project Podcast
Long-form conversations about masculinity, identity and the lives men actually live.
These are episodes of The Modern Man Project, written, hosted and produced as part of the wider project.
Select an episode to watch here or listen on Spotify.
Episode 1
The Promises We Make as Children
The quiet decisions we make when we're young can become the invisible rules shaping our adult lives. This episode explores where those promises come from, why we hold onto them and what happens when we finally question them.
Episode 2
The Men We Inherit
Our fathers shape us in ways we understand and ways we don't. This episode explores what we inherit from the men before us, what we choose to keep and what we eventually decide to leave behind.
Episode 3
When Safety Becomes a Prison
The things that once protected us can eventually become the very things keeping us stuck. This episode explores control, certainty, fear and what happens when the walls we built for safety begin keeping life out.
Episode 4
Who Am I Without the Mask?
Who are you when nobody needs anything from you? This episode explores the roles we learn to perform, the approval we chase and how one honest decision at a time can bring us closer to ourselves.
Episode 5
The Cost of Being Strong All the Time
What does it cost to always be the strong one? A conversation about strength, vulnerability and making room for your own needs.
Episode 6
The People Who Wake Us Up
Some relationships reveal parts of ourselves we had not understood. This episode explores what we learn through love, loss and the people who challenge us to see ourselves more honestly.
Episode 7
Chemistry, Compatibility and the Stories We Tell Ourselves
A strong attraction can tell us something about a connection, but it cannot tell us everything. This episode explores chemistry, compatibility and the stories we build when we know a little about someone and feel a lot.
Episode 8
Pain isn't Weakness, it's Information
Pain is not proof that a man is weak. This episode explores how pain can become information: something to understand, learn from and respond to, rather than deny or suppress.
Episode 9
The Language of Silence – What Happens When a Man Goes Silent
When a man goes silent, what is happening beneath the surface? This episode explores why men withdraw, the difference between silence and avoidance, and how both partners can make room for more honest communication.
Guest Interviews
Sometimes I get to sit on the other side of the microphone.
These are conversations where I've joined other hosts, podcasts and organisations to talk about masculinity, vulnerability, relationships, writing, The Modern Man Project and the questions behind the work.
The Truth of Who We Are with Dan Grové
The Trauma Therapist Podcast
Men, Mentors, and Modern Values: Lessons in Life and Leadership with Dan Grové
Men of Iron Podcast
Some conversations are worth continuing.
New episodes of The Modern Man Project explore the questions men often carry privately about identity, love, masculinity, relationships, strength and becoming.
Listen, share and come back when something makes you think.